Maybe it is my educational background, but one of my favorite aspects of parenting is TEACHING. I enjoyed the infant stage to some extent, but the toddler phase is by far my favorite in what I have currently experienced in motherhood. I live for the little lessons that my daughter learns everyday and those that I am learning in the process of teaching my own child. To watch my daughter make cognitive connections and become more and more independent is a such a joy. I grieve the fact that one day I may not be as imperative to her well-being. At the same time I look forward to watching her evolve into a beautiful young lady.
That being said there is one thing they never taught me in my formal education courses. One thing I feel ill-equipped to teach my child. That one thing potty training. For a while it seemed like my daughter was basically going to train herself. She got to a point where she was going 2-3 times a day in the toilet on her own with little prompting. She would stop whatever she was doing and take herself to the bathroom. With each successful trip to the toilet she received rewards and after a day of 3 wees in the toilet she was rewarded with panties that she could wear around the house for a couple of hours which she always kept dry.
The most success we had was back in March. The first weekend of April we took a trip to New York City. To my astonishment she did not have one wet or dirty diaper the entire trip. She spent the weekend using toilets around the city. I couldn’t believe how well she was holding it throughout the day so that she could have the glory of using the toilet correctly.
Once summer vacation began we’ve seen some steps backwards. Lately, we’ve been lucky to get her to go in the toilet once a day. She seems to not be bothered to go even when we ask her and remind her. And usually within minutes of our promptings we are changing a dirty or wet diaper.
I know there are a lot of factors when it comes to potty training a child. Our little Princess will be three in September and I was really hoping that we would have her out of diapers by this birthday. The most frustrating part as a mother is being so close and then for some reason reverting back to square one. What changed her mentality about the potty? Virtually anything we say and do right now is not working. She just is not interested. I’m appealing to the moms and dads out there who have wisdom to share. I understand that some children aren’t ready by their third birthday, but our trip to NYC and the progress she was making in March lead me to believe that she is definitely ready.
photo credit-Grace Green, family friend 🙂